In a world full of bad habits, how do you build the habits that will last?
There’s no question that most of us don’t have the ideal lifestyle. Most of us have an unhealthy diet, we don’t exercise, and our bodies are packed with harmful toxins. But despite all that, we still have to live. So how do we keep ourselves from being completely overwhelmed by our bad habits?
The answer lies in setting up habits that last.
Setting up a habit is much like starting a new relationship. You spend the first few months trying to build rapport. You spend time together. You get to know each other. And then after awhile, it becomes much easier to let go and trust the other person.
Once you set up a habit, it becomes a part of you. It becomes a part of your life. You begin to understand how it works and what it takes to maintain it. You might even start to enjoy it.
So how do we set up good habits? It’s actually quite simple.
STEP 1: Set Up Good Habits
The first thing you need to do is set up good habits.
Start with something small and easy to accomplish. Don’t try to eat healthier. Just start by eating fruit instead of candy. You’ll soon find that you’re naturally drawn towards healthy foods.
Next, start moving. Get off the couch and start walking. Even if it’s just around the block. Find a place to exercise regularly and stick to it.
Next, stop drinking. If you want to quit smoking, that’s fine. But start limiting your alcohol intake. Start by cutting down to two drinks per day.
And finally, start getting enough sleep. I know that sounds hard to believe, but once you start sleeping well, you’ll naturally begin to eat better and exercise more.
STEP 2: Build Rapport
Once you’ve set up good habits, it’s time to begin building rapport.
This is a crucial step because it’s the foundation of any healthy relationship. It’s the first step in getting to know the other person. You want to get to know them so that you can build trust.
Don’t wait until you’re sick to start getting to know someone. Don’t wait until you’re broke to start developing rapport. Get to know people now.
The easiest way to develop rapport is through small talk. Try asking the other person a question. Listen to what they say. You’ll learn a lot about them by asking questions.
Another way to build rapport is to compliment them. It’s not just a nice thing to say, it’s an effective tool for making friends and influencing people. When you compliment someone, you’re telling them that you see them as a person who’s worthwhile. And that’s a very powerful tool.
STEP 3: Let Go and Trust the Other Person
Now that you’ve built rapport, it’s time to let go and trust the other person.
Don’t expect the other person to meet your expectations. In fact, don’t even expect them to behave like they should.
When it comes to good habits, you can’t control other people. All you can do is show them that you care and that you trust them.
Thanks for reading!